I was in an aerobics class this week and the instructor admitted to being in a bad mood because her boyfriend had been busted! He had been seen out on a date with another girl while he still is constantly texting and calling her. She was caught blindsided and shocked. He had nothing to say for himself. He has not called or texted again since he was busted. All of us have been caught blindsided at some time. (Definitely me!) Maybe not in a relationship issue but probably with a bill. Just his week I had a heating and cooling company come out and try to charge me double what the agreed on rate was. I was shocked! It was a big lesson to me. First, never raise your voice!Once you raise your voice, you show your weakness and vulnerability. Second, make sure you rationally and clearly explain your point. In my situation, I clearly had negotiated for a coupon stated cheaper rate than the one they offer. When they came out, they said the rate was double that one because I had two air conditioning units. They had serviced my house before and knew I had two units. They never said my rate would be the coupon rate times two so they finally yielded the price. Honestly, it was silly because the company lost money because their serviceman stood there for 30 minutes while I had to talk to the company on the phone. Third, patience is power. You can often wait another person out and win. People become impatient and want a quick resolution. They will often crave if you seem unwavering in your belief. Fourth, treat people fairly even if they don’t treat you fairly. I will always remember a man who ran off with a deposit to power wash my windows and never returned to do the work. I was shocked and stunned. It was my big wake up call to not pay someone until the job is done. We tried to go after him but so many people were trying to go after him that it was useless. I was so hurt and felt taken advantage of. Yet, this last weekend the airlines adjusted my reservations without a $200 charge and a painter reduced how much he charged me because I was a single mom. I feel like I have gotten back the money stolen from me and much more in other ways by just treating people well.
Have a great day! I am going to continue this blog tomorrow by discussing how to plan when a loved one passes on. I was caught totally blindsided when my husband passed on. So many people helped me walk through the maze of sorting through when a loved one, including your spouse passes on. I want to help you be prepared also.