Looking back can often be a terrifying and horrible experience, I know. Last week, I was asked to reach out and contact an ex to verify an event in the past. I was dreading it! There are doors you close for a reason and I did not want this one reopened. The fear seemed almost too much but I pushed myself to confront this sadness from the past. It was such a different experience than i expected. I was shocked to see how life had changed me.
The event that seemed so painful just a few months ago was now just a lesson learned experience. I could see how much I have changed and grown. The event that I cried over and asked, “God, why did you put me through this?” I now had the answer to. I could now see how new doors and experiences had opened up that I never would have explored before. New people have come into my life that seem to work better with my personality and goals. Instead of sadness, I was finally grateful. I was grateful that I had the friends that kept encouraging me that “when one door closes another opens.” This has proved so true!
If you are in that pit of self-pity and sadness wondering, “Why me?”, don’t worry. There is always light at the end of the tunnel! It is the struggles that make us stronger and lead us closer to the true gifts of life. Dating experts will tell people when a relationship ends to say, “Great. Now I am one step closer to the “one.”” That is so true! For five years, I have been widowed and dated all different types of men. It has been a roller coaster ride with many ups and downs but it has helped me shape exactly what qualities are essential for me in my “Mr. Right!”
When life is low, please remember to be just grateful for amazing girlfriends who reassure you that there is always someone else out there and even better. It is true! You are allowed a pity party but then have courage to get back out there again. Rejoice that the perfect guy could be just around the corner or maybe
you have already met him and did not realize it. God has a plan for us and it is always better than one we have created. Remember, what is the way to make God laugh…tell him your plan!